SEX EDUCATION

When should we start this errr... topic with our kids? It encompasses many phases and where or which one should we start first? And who should lead this - the daddy or the mummy? :)

I think I started the very basic sex education when i was pregnant with my 2nd son. I brought Joe, the 'ta ke' with me to one of my monthly check ups - but i doubt he understood what he saw on the ultra sound screen. I also read to him about The New Baby, one of the stories in First Experience by Usborne.


The true sex educaton started when I was pregnant with my daugther. At that time, Joe was 5+ and 2nd son Sern was only 2.5 years old. I read to them how babies are made. This one talks about sperms and egg! Where sperms and egg are from and how the sperms race to touch the egg and bingo - the join of the nature that later develops to be a BABY!!!!! Also I read to them about the The New Baby by Osborne where I changed the characters of the stories to reflect our own experience. The boys loved it and Joe fully understood the initial stage of the reproductive system e.g. baby stays in mummy's tummy for 9 months - he asked why 9 months, why so long?

And when the 'mei mei' is born - my boys at that time aged 6 and 3+ asked how come 'mei mei' no 'ku ku bird'?? I told them because she is a GIRL - I guessed at that point they really realised the distinct difference between BOY and GIRL. And few months later - I discovered this book -

I said this is a wonderful book - it first tells the difference in a girl and boy by names, behaviours, toys boy and girl play, the type of hairs each gender should or usually has, how each gender uses the toilet. Also talk about touching and it mentions the issue of RESPECT and how people should and should not touch you. the book is illustrated by funny comics and simple words - very easy to get kids attention. However I haven't reached the part about Masturbation (err.. I think I will get the daddy to explain to the boys what this is and how boys and men do this :p) and where baby is really coming from - i think i will leave this until my eldest is about 8 or 9.

And lately daddy and I came across stories like 13 years old boy became a father and 15 years old girl going thru her dreadful live after aborting her first child due to negligence in sex relationship. SEX EDUCATION is really important. I told daddy he will have to tell his sons (and of course I will tell my daugther) the consequences of having irresponsible sex relationship at young age or any age. SEX is not just pleasure but SEX is a responsible act and I guess must explain the fundamental of people having sex. Gosh... i hope i will be able to deliver this topic to my kids effectively!!

My colleague's son of 9 yr old came back from school one day and asked, "Mummy, what is this 'F' word?". I know it will be my turn soon.